So let me just preface this by saying, I don’t like to be on Facebook to argue about horribly, morally wrong things. I like to be on Facebook to read what people are up to and correct their grammatical errors. This following post is about something that had me fuming to the point where I couldn’t correct all the horror in their grammar and had to feel absolute sorrow for the victim involved. Please be aware there may be strong adult language and opinions in this article. And it’s going to be long. But please read, because it’s so worth it.
A few weeks ago Nick posted something on my blog in regard to his disdain at what happened with a girl getting slut-shamed all over Twitter. (If you haven’t, please read it, Nick’s is very eloquent.) I didn’t expect I’d be having to do something like this so soon after. But in a recent event in my hometown, there’s a lot of Facebook chatter over a court decision about a statutory rape case. Read that again in case you missed the second-to-last word. So in this instance your first, moral thought should always be along the lines of, “Oh man, so many bad people out there, that poor victim.” Your first thought should never, ever be to assume that it was a male attacker and female victim and it should NEVER EVER occur to you to wonder if this victim was promiscuous or if she asked for it.
But then this happened, when relatives & friends of the alleged rapist had words to say about the situation. If you want to read the link about the news story that started the thread, please go here.
So, the conversation starts off really mild. Again, people are disturbed by the events that took place. And then that third comment there decides to personally attack Myrna. Let’s note here. Remember Jessica from the first string? She is either the sister or cousin of the accused (Mr. Wickham.) She’s a family member that just wants to not be harassed. Andy here, is Jessica’s spouse. He takes it upon himself to instead start harassing people who have nothing to do with the case except have an opinion.
Justin, the person he’s talking about is my brother. I don’t talk to Justin, but it might be clear why. He’s not a terribly nice guy. But, in his defense, he’s never committed this type of crime and suspect he probably wouldn’t. But what do I know? Well, what I do know is that if he did, my family would be the first to tell him “Dude, that was a bad decision, I can’t support that.” Which is when I piped in. By the way, at this point I had no idea what had occurred in that first thread of comments. Keith quickly clears it up. Andy then continues to berate Justin, ignores the fact that the Wickham case is a public one the concerns the community, and makes terrible grammatical errors. The grammar is all I wanted to call him out on. But instead decided I had something far less tame to say. All of this before I had even read the other thread.
To recap. I’m not annoyed because people were harassing my mother. I’m not annoyed that people were harassing my brother (who wasn’t even part of the conversation.) What I’m bothered by is the fact that everyone seems to think this thirteen year old girl was “asking for it,” “acts” like she wants it, and should be “blamed” for this occurrence. Let’s get this straight right now. Rape is rape. Rape is never asked for. Rape is never consensual (meaning: involving consent: giving permission for something to happen.) Rape is never the victim’s fault. Rape is never because what the victim wore on her/his body. Rape should always be punished. And guess what, Statutory Rape is Rape. Even when a pubescent girl tells another person “yes.” Because you can’t be responsible for a sexual act when your body isn’t sexually mature. Ever. And you should never slut shame anyone. You’re just adding to the problem of rape in our society. Knock it off.
And now, because I googled lots of crappy stuff so that I could talk about my opinions, I’m probably going to have the police showing up. You’re welcome.